Frog and Toad are Friends

Just before Susanna grows entirely out of them, I want to record my love of Frog and Toad. I remember them from my childhood. John Hamblin on Play School shouting ‘Now seeds — start growing!’ with just the right mix of innocence and petulance. I rediscovered them in a handsome new hardback collection a few years ago, and haven’t tired of them yet.

There are twenty Frog and Toad stories, written and illustrated by Arnold Lobel in the early 1970s. The pictures, all in shades of green and brown, are simple but expressive, with grinning Frog and frowning Toad in tight jackets and flared trousers, surrounded by outsize foliage befitting their stature. Frog is taller and leaner than Toad. His garden flourishes. His home’s striped walls and clean lines contrast with Toad’s busy floral wallpaper and diamond-paned windows.

The sentences are short and spare, but the ideas a big. Like Rat and Mole, or Pooh and Piglet, Frog and Toad are both archetypal and idiosyncratic. They are perfectly fleshed, rounded characters but they perfectly represent some classic symmetries of human character. Frog is mature, equable, amiable, and balanced. Toad is a mess of neuroses and flaws, who relies on Frog to calm his fears and curb his excesses. Frog encourages Toad to enjoy things, to choose the bigger life, to wake up and to get out and to try again. Toad inclines to anxiety and inertia, and learns from Frog to trust life, to laugh at himself, to expand his notions of happiness. One telling moment comes when he’s enjoying a wild ride, assuming Frog is behind him on the sledge. A passing crow tells him Frog’s not there. ‘“I AM ALL ALONE!” screamed Toad.’ His ride ends in a snowy crash.

You might wonder why Frog bothers, but he seems to enjoy Toad’s company, and not to mind their psychological inequities. In spite of Toad’s neediness, this is true friendship, pure and deep and entirely sufficient. Sometimes they’re like brothers or lovers, sometimes like a father and a child. Shades of all of these, but still something separate. There’s no hint of compensation or consolation in their togetherness. Nothing is wanting.

In the very last story, Toad’s worst fears are realised. He finds a note on Frog’s door saying Frog is not at home. He wants to be alone. To Toad’s despair, Frog has chosen loneliness over his friend’s trying company. But Toad is wrong. When he tracks Frog down to a little island in the river, it turns out Frog sought solitude because he was happy. ‘I am very happy. This morning when I woke up I felt good because the sun was shining. I felt good because I was a frog. And I felt good because I have you for a friend. I wanted to be alone. I wanted to think about how wonderful everything is.’ Toad concedes there might be good reasons to want to be alone.

‘Frog and Toad stayed on the island all afternoon … They were two close friends sitting alone together.’

 

Dear John Dickerson

I’ve been listening to you for years, but always as the smart, incisive commenter on current affairs. To be sure, history and theology and whimsy were never far from your commentary, but these were glimpses only. Your new venture, Naval Gazing, opens the door to your inner life, and I’ve loved it. Thank God you took notes, and kept the notebooks, because in the rush of everything to waste, as Robert Frost put it, it’s hard to hold onto anything at all. With small children and an absorbing job, I find it all but impossible to write down what’s happened, let alone any further reflection on what what’s happened means. I’m encouraged that even your hasty, harried shorthand is meaningful enough to you, years later, to build these beautiful essays on.

When I listened to the 9/11 episode, the one that explains why and how you opened the books, I was walking in autumn beside a lake and the sky was grey but the trees were bright and the lake shone and the place we call Black Mountain was perfectly reflected in it. I was very moved by the September 11 stories (who would not be?) and the elegy for a loved father-in-law, and at the same time realised I’d been moved by all of it — every episode. In each one there comes a moment, or a passage, when the long looking yields its riches and you stand on the heights of what all this detail amounts to. You realise anywhere you stop is a vantage point if you only look. There is after all something moving about being still.

I was most moved by the voice in the final episode - the one that’s not yours. A woman named Caroline describes her hard and humble and extraordinary life. It was a kind of unbearable grace to hear from her, and to know that someone like her is aflourish on the other side of the world. Then you reflected on the lights in other houses, and the blessing you wish on other lives. I was walking through a department store this time, and I was undone. Thank you for the gift of this undoing.

The lines that have haunted my listening all along come from Marilynne Robinson, who I feel sure you love as I do. In Gilead, old John Ames writes to his little son: ‘This is an interesting planet. It’s worth all the attention you can give it.’ Likewise, ‘There are a thousand thousand reasons to live this life, every one of them sufficient.’ And again, ‘It has seemed to me sometimes as though the Lord breathes on this poor gray ember of Creation and it turns to radiance — for a moment or a year or the span of a life. And then it sinks back into itself again, and to look at it no one would know it had anything to do with fire, or light .... Wherever you turn your eyes the world can shine like transfiguration. You don’t have to bring a thing to it except a little willingness to see.’

All this reminds me, too, of Annie Dillard, who’s also been at the back of all my listening to you. In her book of long looking, Pilgrim at Tinker Creek, she wanders, awed, around Roanoke and spends whole days looking (‘Spend the afternoon! You can’t take it with you.’) The tone is an abiding astonishment at the universe, and she concludes: ‘My God what a world. There is no accounting for one second of it.’

Accounting for it, or trying to, is both impossible and worthwhile. We can’t, of course, but all the attempts - in writing and art and music - are what give life its lustre. Your essays, accounting for your own passage through this unaccountable universe, have given a glow to my days, a new intensity to my attention, and a hope that one day my own books will be opened and I might find something there worth looking at. Thank you, again, for this gift.

Sincerely.

Losing Hilary Mantel

I read An Experiment in Love at university. I found it gripping, but it released me as soon as I finished it and never reached for me again. I read Fludd and found it mildly engaging, but again, it kept no particular place in my mind or memory. Being repulsed by its subject, I never went near Beyond Black. Then I read Wolf Hall.

Its effect on me, as on the world, was electric. It was an apparition. A comet. ‘The achieve of, the mastery of the thing!’ All the superlatives reviewers bestowed were justified. It was beyond anything we could have hoped for: from this author — from any author. Its two sequels bestrode the literary world at the same latitudes, the same altitude. Heights no others would even attempt, let alone accomplish as she did. Immaculate world-building, each thread and fibre held at the precise tension to make the pictures true — in both senses. Lives plucked from the dust of the past and animated with minds, moods, expressions, energies, quirks; unfolding in rooms or gardens or woods — ‘acres of England’ laid out in ‘leafy shires’ — where wood and stone and fire, fur, silk, linen, leather, and parchment, give every scene lustre and fragrance, as well as verity. The whole thing stitched to history with strong but secret stitches. Sustained brilliance across some two thousand pages. They were — are — prodigies.

They deserved all the praise. They all deserved the prizes (though, inexplicably, Lee Child stood like a troll on a bridge between them and the Booker trifecta). She wrote them at the height of her powers, and thank God she lived to do it, given the pain and ill-health she lived with so long. She mastered her art, and made her masterpiece, and now she’s gone.

What we’ve lost is not more masterworks (there might have been no more), nor more heights of power or accomplishment, but her way of seeing the world. Her mind and eye, at work together. We keep the work, but we’ve lost the only person capable of such work. The work is miraculous, but we’ve lost the miracle of just that person, that portal, where this idea, this desire, apprehension, aptitude and achievement coincided. She made worlds, but she was a world — as all of us are — and the world she was is now extinct. She once said that these Cromwell books might be the thing she could have done that nobody else could have done. In the wake of her death, they look all the more singular (in the way a supernova is singular). All the more wondrous, given how fragile and contingent, how mortal, we now know her life to have been. I suppose this is true of any death. ‘And blue-bleak embers… Fall, gall themselves, and gash gold-vermilion.’