For my mother, at whose knee I learned to love John Donne. He wrote this 9th of his Elegies, “The Autumnal,” for George Herbert's mother Magdalen, his patroness, to whom he also dedicated his Holy Sonnets. Happy Mothers' Day, Ma.
No spring nor summer beauty hath such graceAs I have seen in one autumnal face.Young beauties force our love, and that's a rape,This doth but counsel, yet you cannot scape.If 'twere a shame to love, here 'twere no shame;Affection here takes reverence's name.Were her first years the golden age? That's true,But now she's gold oft tried and ever new.That was her torrid and inflaming time,This is her tolerable tropic clime.Fair eyes, who asks more heat than comes from hence,He in a fever wishes pestilence.Call not these wrinkles, graves; if graves they were,They were Love's graves, for else he is no where.Yet lies not Love dead here, but here doth sitVow'd to this trench, like an anachorit;And here till hers, which must be his death, come,He doth not dig a grave, but build a tomb.Here dwells he; though he sojourn ev'rywhereIn progress, yet his standing house is here:Here where still evening is, not noon nor night,Where no voluptuousness, yet all delight.In all her words, unto all hearers fit,You may at revels, you at council, sit.This is Love's timber, youth his underwood;There he, as wine in June, enrages blood,Which then comes seasonablest when our tasteAnd appetite to other things is past.Xerxes' strange Lydian love, the platane tree,Was lov'd for age, none being so large as she,Or else because, being young, nature did blessHer youth with age's glory, barrenness.If we love things long sought, age is a thingWhich we are fifty years in compassing;If transitory things, which soon decay,Age must be loveliest at the latest day.But name not winter faces, whose skin's slack,Lank as an unthrift's purse, but a soul's sack;Whose eyes seek light within, for all here's shade;Whose mouths are holes, rather worn out than made;Whose every tooth to a several place is gone,To vex their souls at resurrection:Name not these living death's-heads unto me,For these, not ancient, but antique be.I hate extremes, yet I had rather stayWith tombs than cradles, to wear out a day.Since such love's natural motion is, may stillMy love descend, and journey down the hill,Not panting after growing beauties. So,I shall ebb on with them who homeward go.